The first message you send on a dating site or app can make all the difference.
A great profile may catch someone’s attention, but the first message is where a real conversation begins.
The problem is that many people send messages like:
“Hi.”
“How are you?”
“You’re beautiful.”
There is nothing wrong with being polite, but these messages give the other person very little to respond to.
A better first message shows that you actually looked at the person’s profile and gives them an easy reason to answer.
The goal isn’t to write the cleverest message.
The goal is to start a natural conversation.
1. Read the Profile Before You Write
The best first messages usually come from something already written in the other person’s profile.
If they mention traveling, cooking, photography, books, hiking, music, or a favorite city, use that information.
For examp…